tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post2111567309704952916..comments2024-02-01T23:10:22.281-07:00Comments on Talking Walls: Confessions of a Single Mormon Girl: Reaction to My Last Post (Stella Skywalker)Betty Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16987479056131952561noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-63056751261799077822010-11-17T19:57:10.193-07:002010-11-17T19:57:10.193-07:00Beautifully written. It's true. Who we are is ...Beautifully written. It's true. Who we are is the most valuable thing we have and all our achievements and titles can be taken. <br /><br />I spent years pursuing an education and career that I just knew would bring me complete joy. When I reached the top of that mountain, I realized I was all alone and I would trade it all for someone to love. I wondered if I had passed up many good opportunities and sacrificed what really mattered for my career. <br /><br />I ended up marrying my husband and moving to another state where I can't even practice law anymore haha. I'm ok with that. I don't have any regrets but I do realize that in the end, even the accomplishments that I was most proud of have been taken and yet, I'm still ME:0) Thats the most valuable part.Conkithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08807891640102369665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-42674014177992595292010-11-04T19:27:33.005-06:002010-11-04T19:27:33.005-06:00Stella, thank you SO much for writing this.
I es...Stella, thank you SO much for writing this. <br /><br />I especially, especially love the comparison of lists. But gosh darn it, don't you wish there were more 6'4 men in the world?! <br /><br />I had a stupid list too. Most of my list was pretty good, but there were really stupid things in there (return missionary, oldest child like me, isn't a surfer or a jock, doesn't wear flip flops to church, speaks a second language - preferably Chinese, geeky and at least as computer savvy as I am, doesn't work out in the gym to look good). Turns out, my husband didn't serve a mission, wore flip flops to church at BYUH, and I taught him the little Chinese he knows. Objective items on lists are so stupid. <br /><br />We do get so caught up with the happy ending story that we tend to forget that life really is about the learning process, not the happy ending. We all screw up in one way or another that affect our futures and we just can't afford to look back in regret, beating ourselves up for things we didn't learn sooner. There's no point to that at all. The point is that we learned something.<br /><br />I know that while my time as a single is not comparable to yours in any way, I am glad that I had that single time I didn't ask for. The time I had to make my mistakes as a single woman has allowed me to grow into the woman I am today. I am grateful for that.Feihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04289385334453931872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-31522573013779029542010-11-04T18:36:10.164-06:002010-11-04T18:36:10.164-06:00Stella,
I COMPLETELY relate! On the days I get dis...Stella,<br />I COMPLETELY relate! On the days I get discouraged and hopeless, I often berate myself for not being ready when the rest of my gender was back in my 20s. I also feel like maybe I've missed my chance and this is the consequence of NOT being ready for marriage in an optimal time in my life. But this was how my life was going to go. I needed time. And it's taken too many years to even forgive myself for taking so long to figure things out. Thanks for the uplift and reminder!<br /><br />And I totally agree with you about the temple dresses! :)Marniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13879388132630156510noreply@blogger.com