tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post4855417655531730570..comments2024-02-01T23:10:22.281-07:00Comments on Talking Walls: Confessions of a Single Mormon Girl: Who signed up for this? Anyone? Anyone? (Stella)Betty Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16987479056131952561noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-67070221799611926272011-05-08T23:24:41.011-06:002011-05-08T23:24:41.011-06:00I appreciate you sharing that you now have a hope ...I appreciate you sharing that you now have a hope that you haven't had before because you are choosing to believe. As a single woman in her 30s, I have struggled with feelings of anger, abandonment, lonliness, etc. What works for me is what it sounds like worked for you - choosing to believe Christ and the promises He makes. It's not easy and sometimes you have to choose on a minute to minute basis. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your experiences and reminding me that happiness, in or out of marriage, is a choice.<br /><br />The feelings from this post reminded me of this entry of mine. (See, you're not alone!!) I posted the link below if you are interested.<br /><br />http://butifnotblog.blogspot.com/2010/01/front-lines.html#moreRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619645047139715607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-86454783560906324212011-04-28T00:47:36.151-06:002011-04-28T00:47:36.151-06:00I like your writing style you seem very passionate...I like your writing style you seem very passionate. Vent when you need to, you'll pull through in the end!<br /><br />www.marleeindebt.blogspot.comMarleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01919798722837721242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-5007861193504999782011-04-26T12:10:20.405-06:002011-04-26T12:10:20.405-06:00ok I'm lost LOL...
HSok I'm lost LOL...<br /><br />HSHS @ Our Debt Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16131857251377260758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-39546356637838907202011-04-25T19:42:09.448-06:002011-04-25T19:42:09.448-06:00It's a good reminder that none of us have the ...It's a good reminder that none of us have the same hurts or pains. What bothers you doesn't necessarily bother me. I think there are plenty of single women who live life and don't worry about marriage. I think there are those who worry about it everyday and who ache constantly. Enduring well - whatever your particular difficulty - is really what life is all about. Good post thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-1157776608629003882011-04-25T12:37:34.887-06:002011-04-25T12:37:34.887-06:00I have an active friend who is single in her mid 3...I have an active friend who is single in her mid 30s and doesn't seem to be the least bit angry, sad, or desperate to be married. She is always full of smiles, fun stories about her amazing career, international travels, and likes to brag about her nephews. I have heard her once say that it stinks sometimes to be LDS because you can't date non-LDS (she has had crushes on co-workers) but other than that, she has the attitude of "it'll happen when the time is right and i'm going to live an awesome life until then." She never lets on any kind of real sadness or depression and anxious desire to be married. <br /><br />BUT--I honestly wonder all the time if her attitude is just a front, and if deep inside she is hurting. I don't know, because she acts like she singlness doesn't really bother her and that her life is amazing regardless. I don't think she would admit anything to me. Can an active, over 30 LDS woman really not care? I honestly don't know.<br /><br />That said, I am guessing at least ONE of the "famous" LDS single women (or former single women) you mentioned, like Sister Dew HAVE felt intenese anger, rage, bitterness, and jealously at some point. Maybe not all of them....but at least one. But I am guessing they do not mention it over the pulpit, even though many women would like to hear it, because the hard truth is, negative feelings don't get you anywhere.<br /><br />Its a lesson I'm still learning for sure, but feeling angry, jealous, sad, etc....doesn't help you get what you want any faster. It only serves to greatly diminish your enjoyment of the blessings you do have. It can suck all hapiness and joy out of your life. It can control you. It can become an obessions. None of this is happy. Intense negative feelings leave you drained and miserable, and unable to enjoy the wonderful blessings you DO have.<br /><br />I sometimes have to fight the "jealous" monster myself...as I do look at others who have what i want and think that I would appreciate their blessings more...I need it more...I deserve it more...I would do more with what they have than what they are doing...why did I have to be the one to "lose out?"etc. I KNOW its the wrong attitude, but it still flares up. Its normal. But we have to try to control it or we can't have joy. We'll just be bitter and bitter never got anyone anywhere. Still, it stinks when you really want something, and there isn't much you can do to get it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-63455453511254759942011-04-25T10:03:41.075-06:002011-04-25T10:03:41.075-06:00Because dear Art - when you've gone your entir...Because dear Art - when you've gone your entire life dreaming and hoping and believing that things would happen or turn out a certain way and they don't it's only natural to go through the grief of loss - which includes anger. All part of the process. Doesn't sound like that's been your burden to bear so please don't try to minimize or tell others not to feel what they need to feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5586889322001976439.post-14877622107848377502011-04-25T03:27:59.202-06:002011-04-25T03:27:59.202-06:00Life is a never ending journey the way you feel ab...Life is a never ending journey the way you feel about it is your choice.<br /><br />The race car driver Dale Earnhardt Snr once said why let one bad moment spoil a bunch of good ones.<br /><br />In Africa folks genuinely struggle to keep food on the table from one day to the next, yet ask most people who visit Africa outside of famine zones what their overwhelming memory is and they are sure to remember lots of smiling faces even amongst the poorest of the poor.<br /><br />Life when it is understood and utilised for what it is tastes sweet.<br /><br />Worrying or getting mad about being single sucks and makes life taste bitter so why choose to be mad ?Art Tidescohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16680781189400367930noreply@blogger.com