Monday, September 15, 2008

Soul Mate Part II (Leah)

Maybe I mislabeled my previous post. I didn't really want to discuss what a "soul mate" is or isn't - just that I was trying to figure out if Phil and I are connecting enough. I only used the "good Mormon girl" label because of the principle taught by Pres. Kimball that any good man and any good woman can marry and that there is no such thing as a soul mate in the sense of a one and only. I've often rallied behind that statement in discussions with friends who are looking for the magical moment of connecting with that dreamed of and longed for soul mate. I do agree with "anonymous" that relationships can transcend typical relationships. I have people in my life that I connect with on very deep levels, but I still argue that that connection is not proof or argument for marrying. For one thing, many of those soul mates I have are women or married friends - where marriage isn't an option. As someone who has A LOT of friends, I can't say I believe I'll be friends with that soul mate forever. I think certain relationships can connect at the soul level at specific times and in specific situations. Like Bryan - maybe we're really connected on a certain level - but considering I'm playing an anonymous part marriage isn't an option.

Now, as far as marriage is concerned, I'd like to put forth the idea I strongly adhere to, that soul mates are made, not found. A good man and a good woman make each other soul mates by having many heart to heart binding experiences - working and sharing and building a relationship makes for very strong soul mates, the kind that prophets and their wives exemplify.

So... what do you think of that?

7 comments:

Scully said...

I think you hit it on the head girlfriend. Couldn't have said it better.

Marnie said...

I concur. That's how I believe it works. You get what you give! I think the real trick is to find a man who also has the desire to work to make each other soul-mates.

Bryan said...

Geez, I am so distraught now. I thought we had something. JK! :)

Anonymous said...

Yes, this is great clarification, i really like the idea that soul mates are made...thank you

Leah said...

Anonymous - thank you! I'm glad to hear the clarifying helped.

Bryan - we have something...a good something...a good blog something. :) Feel free to do a guest post for us!

Scully and Marnie - you're soul sisters! Sorry, that's what popped into the head. Good to share a blog with you both!

Anonymous said...

There was more than one "anonymous" commenting on your last post, and I still think there wasn't enough clarity on your judgement of "good mormon girls" vs. the rest of "us". What do you think of THAT?

Leah said...

Anonymous 2 - I think I wish I could offer more clarity but it's possible that we may wind up just seeing things differently in the end anyway- agree to disagree sort of thing. I guess the "rest of us" in my mind must be referring to those people who DO believe in a soul-mate - a one and only. If you take offense at the label "good Mormon girl" please understand I only used it in a generic label sense, and did not mean to imply that those who do believe in one and onlys are "bad Mormon girls."