Please excuse the title of that last post. Let's call it "How do you spend the holidays?" And really, I think I'd like to know. What's your position? How do you feel this time of year? What have you done to make it more meaningful and memorable?
I love the holidays but like you I can get a bit depressed. I think it is the pressure to get the perfect gift for DK and the knowledge that I cannot possibly afford what I would like to give added upon that the feeling of lonliness I get sometimes on cold winter nights sitting alone looking at the brilliant lights of my Christmas tree. I try to overcome those feelings of sadness and lonliness with two things. First we try and remember WHY we are celebrating Christmas. At the beginning of the season we have a birthday party for Jesus and have cake and everything and we talk about why we give gifts. It helps. Then we try and give service to others who may also be lonely. DK and I helped a widow last night who had recently moved. It felt great to help her get her house together and DK was the biggest help. We were both on a service high all night long.
I do have to agree that New Years Eve is worse and I have not figured a way to make it better. It does not help that last year I did have someone to cuddle with on the couch and get that midnight kiss. No such luck this year but that is ok. I think I will go to bed at a decent hour.
I was wrapping presents this morning and listening to Christmas music. I love Christmas because of these two things so I try to focus on them the most.
I heard something on the radio yesterday that I thought summed up my new attitude. It was a show about death and dying. One mantra that struck me was "want what you have". In other words—be grateful. Even a bit more than grateful for what you've got and where you are. Also just the fact that we're all going to die… hate to break it to you. What if this was my last Christmas or New Years? Would I want to spend it all depressed because of what I seemingly lack? I am so amazingly blessed.
We are 30/40-something, single, LDS women from various backgrounds. We started this blog with hopes that the pressure to record some dating experiences will get us out there having some interesting things to write about. We welcome any comments and insights as this is also some good group therapy and, hopefully, just plain fun. Feel free to comment or send us an email.
Hi, I'm Anne Elliot
"A testament to the triumph of hope over experience" (Hitch). Waiting for Captain Wentworth to show up already.
Hi, I'm Marnie
In regards to relationships, I related to the movie, Marnie, when I was in High School. And if you’ve seen the movie, that isn’t good.
Hi, I'm Lorelai
In search of Luke, not Skywalker no wait yes Skywalker would be fine...
Hi, I'm Bridget
I found a kindred spirit in the character of Bridget Jones. Neurotic and self deprecating, my favorite qualities :) Kidding, sort of
Hi, I'm Stella (Married July 2012)
Stella is Latin for star and since Lorelei was already taken I thought Stella was the perfect way to go. We are all bright lights in the kingdom even when we feel we've burnt out or in our singleness been ostracized to outer space.
Hi, I'm Marcia (Married Sept. 2008)
I'm the oldest of 6 kids, 3 boys/3 girls
Hi, I'm Kris (Married Jan. 2009)
I'm a big fan of the Angels. I always wanted to be Kris Munroe growing up.
Hi, I'm Leah (Married Nov. 2009)
You know, the one NOT chosen. But, like her, I'm not bitter.
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I love the holidays but like you I can get a bit depressed. I think it is the pressure to get the perfect gift for DK and the knowledge that I cannot possibly afford what I would like to give added upon that the feeling of lonliness I get sometimes on cold winter nights sitting alone looking at the brilliant lights of my Christmas tree. I try to overcome those feelings of sadness and lonliness with two things. First we try and remember WHY we are celebrating Christmas. At the beginning of the season we have a birthday party for Jesus and have cake and everything and we talk about why we give gifts. It helps. Then we try and give service to others who may also be lonely. DK and I helped a widow last night who had recently moved. It felt great to help her get her house together and DK was the biggest help. We were both on a service high all night long.
I do have to agree that New Years Eve is worse and I have not figured a way to make it better. It does not help that last year I did have someone to cuddle with on the couch and get that midnight kiss. No such luck this year but that is ok. I think I will go to bed at a decent hour.
I was wrapping presents this morning and listening to Christmas music. I love Christmas because of these two things so I try to focus on them the most.
I heard something on the radio yesterday that I thought summed up my new attitude. It was a show about death and dying. One mantra that struck me was "want what you have". In other words—be grateful. Even a bit more than grateful for what you've got and where you are. Also just the fact that we're all going to die… hate to break it to you. What if this was my last Christmas or New Years? Would I want to spend it all depressed because of what I seemingly lack? I am so amazingly blessed.
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