Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Googling Disease (Leah)
I was reading in the news today about how common it is for people to Google questions about their health. It occurred to me that this site is sort of like those websites, but in relation to diseases of the heart. Okay, so that sounded cheesy, but I couldn't resist. This morning I woke up a bit sick in my heart. I've had a bit more interaction with old Phil. He really wants to try dating again. We've tried this before - where he wants to get back together. After two attempts at dating, in the end, he couldn't commit to even date me exclusively. My friend suggested I only give him another chance if he's ready to risk "all" this time. I decided I am not ready to risk all on him and so I can't ask that of him. In fact, I had to tell him no. That really hurt. I really care about him. I really enjoy being with him. But I haven't enjoyed the NOT-being-with-him that seems to be a natural consequence. I had to judge him on his actions and his history. Just asking me to give him another chance wasn't very persuasive. I tried to think of things he COULD have done to persuade me to give him another chance. The thing is - I can't come up with any. I think if he really wanted to win me back the actions would have to be something HE thought of. They would have to be the result of his own long pondering and efforts - not mine. THAT'S what he needs to do - he needs to come up with his own solution to this problem if he really wants me back. A woman wants a man who can be her hero - who can save her - not who asks her what he should do to save her - just step up and do some saving already. Am I right? I think I am. So... Old Phil - if you're Googling "how to win a woman back" I hope you get some good advice from this post and realize that you need to step up and be a man and solve your own problem instead of asking me how to do it.