Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Not Exclusive (Leah)
So... I wanted something to be posted on here - but I didn't want to have to do it. You know what they say, though, if you want something done you might as well just do it yourself. Well this also applies to having one of those "talks." I did it. I initiated a talk with Phil. We've been going on dates at least once a week for a few months now. I thought it was time we did some clarifying, like, where do we stand, where are we going - the usual. I was surprised at how easily and smoothly I brought it up. Oh, first you should know, I gave him warning that I wanted to talk. Before we ever started dating we'd had a casual conversation about dating and all the assuming that can happen and cause trouble. In the email I just said I wanted to talk to avoid unnecessary assuming. On the following date it was easy enough to say, "By the way, that's one of the things I wanted to talk to you about." Overall I'd say it went well and I came away actually feeling more secure, despite the fact that he said he was dating other women. Maybe it's because I wanted us to be open to dating others - who knows - but really, pure clarity does wonders! He never looked better to me and conversation was never more comfortable. I don't intend to do it again any time soon, but I felt like we did a bit of ice breaking. I'm glad.