I was discussing this concept of expectation management with a good friend last night. I'm a bit hesitant to know which expectations need lowering. The ex-Phil sometimes felt like women had way too many expectations - in terms of timing. He felt like one reason we didn't work out is that I expected him to figure things out faster. He may have a point - but I still feel that after a year of on again off again dating and friendship, my expectations weren't too much. Yes, everyone has their own time schedule and we shouldn't be so stuck on "rules" that we don't find our own flow, but is it too much to expect that he could have made a commitment to at least be exclusive?
In other areas of expectations management - we all like to be treated well. Generally, men on the first few dates, do a good job of getting doors or treating you to a nice enough dinner. You know, "real" dates. Well, lately the Phil that has been asking me out keeps asking me to family functions - very casual stuff, like babysitting the nieces and nephews. Sure it would be nice if he took me to a play or dinner or something, but truthfully, I think this is okay. I think he likes to really get to know a woman in a natural setting. STILL one of these days, I'd hope he could step it up a notch and take me on a real date. Anyway, for now I'm managing my expectations.